Dating as an exotic dancer can be very difficult because there is such a huge stigma around the industry. Some people will see you as a novelty or even something to check off of their list.
I’m not an expert but I do have a great relationship with my girlfriend, Toot Toot! (That was me tooting my own horn). So get comfy and I will share some dating wisdom with all of you.
First of all, I recommend being up front about what you do. Not everyone is going to like it and they’re probably not the one for you. The last thing you want is to fall for someone and for them to not accept your line of work. There is someone open minded and loving out there for you and you shouldn’t settle for anything less.
Trust is the single most important thing in any relationship. Your partner should understand that you’re going to work to make a living and nothing more! Watch out for green eyed monsters and communicate with your other half to address any issues. Jealousy isn’t good for either of you and it might be an early warning sign of a toxic relationship.
Don’t bring your partner to work. It’s never going to be a good idea, even if you’ve got the best relationship in the world! Part of our job is to flirt with customers and bringing your gf/bf along will just hurt your money and probably cause an argument. Your partner does not want to see you chatting up a customer, even if they know it’s all an act.
Finally, make time for your partner. This should go without saying but it’s so important. You wouldn’t like to feel second best to their career so make sure you show them how much they’re appreciated.
*Shout out to my beautiful girlfriend, she’s caring, open minded, thoughtful, driven and supports everything I do! (Including this blog). xxx